I have two wonderful little boys, and it's hard to imagine loving anyone more than I do them. I cherish each one. It's amazing: two boys, individual additions to our family, yet fully and wholly and equally loved by their dad.
What's also amazing about them is that neither one is self-conscious when the other receives praise, affection, or a special gift. Why? We don't tolerate it. We're not weird about it, we're just pragmatic: "Daddy loves you tons, too, but this is something special for your brother, and you need to just get over it and be happy for him."
Over time, they've learned to respond properly. Where once there might have been childish jealousy and selfishness, there's now security and celebration.
We need this in the workplace.
Great cultures are made up of many different types of people, with different strengths and talents. And it has to be okay for a particular individual to have his or her moment of praise, while the rest of us truly celebrate. We have to see our colleague's success as our success.
Jealousy encourages a host of missteps, and it robs us of the joys of working together. The good news is that if we proactively find opportunities to praise and appreciate the talent, contributions, and hard work of individuals, we'll rid our culture of that plague.